Why I Share So Many Thoughts Every Day

So why do I share so many thoughts every day?

I realized recently that I needed to start writing them down throughout the day — because by the time I sit down to record one of these, I'm thinking, wait, what was the thing I wanted to talk about earlier?

And apparently that makes complete sense.

Researchers at Queen's University developed a way of identifying transitions from one thought to another and estimated that the average person experiences more than six thousand thoughts in a single day.

So no — we're probably not going to remember every idea that crosses our minds.

But some of those thoughts aren't random to me. They're conversations I actually want to have. That's why I share three thought posts a day.

As I've gotten older, I've realized something else too.

Your circle gets smaller.

I have people I deeply love and trust, but we're adults. People have children, families, careers, responsibilities. We can live hundreds — or even thousands — of miles apart. You don't necessarily have somebody sitting beside you every afternoon who you can say, okay, I was thinking about something today. Can we talk about this?

And I think a lot of women understand that feeling.

Sometimes you have something on your mind that isn't even a problem that needs fixing. You just want somewhere to put it. Somewhere safe. Somewhere you can ask, has anybody else thought about this?

That's part of why I built this space.

I don't want my thoughts to disappear into an algorithm five minutes after I share them. I want us to actually sit with ideas — talk about them, disagree sometimes, add another perspective, say I thought I was the only woman who felt like this.

And that's also why I've been working toward making these thought posts more conversational inside Embody Her — including giving you a way to respond and share what the conversation brings up for you. Because I don't want this to feel like I'm speaking at you. I want it to feel like we're sitting together.

(Quick update from me: that feature is now live. You can comment on every single thought post, and I — or anyone else in the community — can reply to whatever you leave. Okay, back to it.)

Honestly, that's why something as simple as lighting a fall candle makes sense to me.

Light the candle. Get comfortable. Put the phone down for a minute. And actually sit with yourself.

Because among those thousands of thoughts moving through your mind every day, there might be one idea worth writing down. One realization worth exploring. One conversation worth having. One idea that could completely change what you build next.

Maybe we don't need to capture every thought.

Maybe we just need to become better at noticing the ones that keep asking us to pay attention.